What Do Pastors Say At Weddings?

A wedding ceremony is a wonderful opportunity for the pastor to share something with two people in particular while hundreds of people around them are listening in.

What Do Pastors Say At Weddings

It is unlikely couples will remember anything the Pastors say.

So what should a pastor say at weddings? What words will they speak that will be of value and tremendous assistance in the future, a year from now or ten years from now, during the ceremony? 

There is only so much time available, and this is neither the place nor the time for a full sermon. Nonetheless, Pastors will let the couple  know a few things that will lodge in their hearts forever.

Here Are 5 Topics That You Are Likely To Hear From A Pastor At A Wedding

This Is A Holy Step That The Couple Are Taking And What That Means

God owns something holy.  A thing may be created by God, kept for Himself, then announced to mankind that this thing is His.

People are holy, places are holy, times are holy, rituals are holy, sacrifices are holy.  Being holy means dwelling within His realm.

Marriage is sacred, and it can be attained by the strength and power of the Lord, as it is a sacred relationship.

God Will Not Force A Great Marriage On The Couple

People have the power to choose.

God told the people of Israel, “I stand at your door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in….” (Revelation 3:20).

The point of this is that God will bring the blessings of heaven all the way to the front door, but that is where it stops. At this point it is for the couple to decide if they want his blessing. 

The Pastor will state how marriage is about making good choices every day for the rest of our lives.

Marriage Is More Than Just Love

It takes commitment to make a marriage work.  In sickness and in health, we promise to love and cherish each other until death separates us.

There is no promise of eternal love in most ceremonies, but they all promise faithfulness to the end.

Dietrich Bonhoeffer said at a wedding ceremony for his niece, “Love will not sustain your marriage. Marriage will sustain your love.”

Commitment is key in marriage. This will be told several times by the Pastor.

The Trials And Tribulations Of God’s Plan

The couple shouldn’t give up on their marriage-or think they’ve failed in some way-or worse, consider they’ve made a mistake when problems arise.  Issues are inevitable.

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There is a story about the child who watched as the new butterfly emerged from its chrysalis.  When the butterfly struggled to break free, he decided to use a pair of tweezers to assist the process.  

As he was freeing the butterfly from the cocoon, he noticed that it was motionless. Later, he realized it had died. 

The parent explained to the child that he had interrupted nature; the struggle to free the butterfly from the chrysalis was good for it, as it hindered the development of its wings and next step into the world. 

The idea of a stress-free life is something that never existed and was never intended to exist.

Stress is necessary to build muscle. We are also allowed stress by God to grow as Christians.  A thousand adjustments such as financial pressure, the presence of in-laws, children, and relationships all play a major role in the development of husbands and wives so that eventually they become “one flesh.”.

Marriage is about facing obstacles together and growing.

Renewing Your Vows Tomorrow And The Day After That

Our wedding day commitments lock us into a legal contract.  And that’s perfectly fine. The next morning, however, we must choose each other again.

It was faith that led us to choose each other for the first time.  Only a sliver of what we were getting into did we know what we were doing.  As time passes, we know more.

Our choice to choose each other again, this time by sight and not faith, brings us immense blessings.  It is no longer necessary to keep secrets, to hide agendas, or to wait to discover the other’s secrets. We know one another.  Choosing one another is golden.

Every day of our lives, we choose each other in marriage.

Final Thoughts

So, If you are having a wedding in the near future, then this is what you should expect to hear from a pastor on the day. Understanding what the pastor will come out with may help you feel more comfortable on the day of your wedding.

Anneka Huddleston
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